When my boy hits his second year, he became frustrated by his inability to communicate his needs, he knows what he wants but he doesn’t have the language skills to say it.
He was screaming all the freaking time, whenever we get into the car, when he sees anyone new, and the minute we enter anywhere!
I can’t forget the day when we went to a restaurant and he started to shout and scream the minute we entered! My husband tried to calm him down, play with him, giving him his mobile, since you know all the kids like smartphones nowadays!! It helped a little but just until they brought the food! When he started to throw the spoon on the floor, pouring his water, dropping his toys!! And when we asked him why he’s doing it he started to shout!!
We were so ashamed of his shameful behavior.
I remember I wanted to cry when we left the restaurant as soon as we could, not to bother anyone!
When I tell him to close his mouth or to stop screaming, he screams harder and louder, till I lose my temper, and start to shout at him! Then I begin to blame myself!!
All the shouting and unreasonable crying! it’s now gotten to the point where I can’t handle it anymore. We are all having a hard time because of my son’s habitual crying and screaming. It’s out of control.
I’ve tried (and still will) talk to him in a calm voice, tell him I love him, that we don’t scream, and he needs to tell me what’s wrong, and to use his words. Sometimes he will, but mostly he won’t. I really don’t know what else can I try to stop his noisy vocal demonstrations!
Though he wasn’t a cry baby, he was always smiling, the happiest baby ever. He’s doing it for 100% dramatic effect. I’ve found that sometimes the best way to handle it is ignoring him. It’s really hysterical how dramatic he is. But unfortunately, more often ignoring him doesn’t do anyone any favors. He’ll just scream louder. And what annoys me the most, that he’s using it to get attention in public places, this is so disgraceful!!
At first, I didn’t give into his crying when it came to wanting something other than being held. But later on, if we are out, I do give into what he wants, because you know, I feel like I don’t wanna bother others with the sound of my crying toddler! And so he got used to getting what he wants by crying! I know it’s wrong, but what else can I do??
Dealing with my son’s tantrums all day is draining me! Some have told me “kids may not enjoy having crying fits, you should figure out what’s wrong with him!!”
Maybe they don’t, but at least, it delays them from having to do something they don’t want to do. They think that’s the way it works, using a tantrum in order to escape a demand, such as going to bed, or cleaning up his toys. Or getting what they want! such as a very expensive toy, or unhealthy candy!! But sometimes I feel like yes, he’s enjoying it, he thinks it’s kinda playing, or the way to express his feelings. He’s using his sound machine every time, when he’s happy, when he’s sad, when he’s hungry, & when he’s mad. Oh! That drives me crazy!! I’m so confused!!
Now really I want to enjoy THIS moment of my kid’s life, and not have the thoughts “I can’t wait until we’re passed this stage”. So, other than his perpetual shouting & crying, he’s so adorable. We constantly fight over who gets to cuddle him after his shower, or who gets to carry him when he gets up from his naps.
He loves hiding in his tent, and under his bed,
playing with his toys, mostly cars. Actually, he adores cars, he has more than 30 cars toys, different types, sizes, and colors, and still thinks they’re not enough!!
And whenever we get out of the house, he assumes that he should get a new toy, and guess what?! car again! Another addition to his car’s collection! Well, he loves Lightning McQueen, and memorizes all the cars names in Cars movie.
He loves helping his dad assemble things. He always tries to help us carrying stuff – grocery bags, boxes, etc. But then he drops them and cry “it’s too heavy, I can’t! When am I going to grow up like daddy, to carry them for you?” Oh, sweetheart